“I’LL SEE YOU IF IT FLOWS… IF IT EMERGES NATURALLY AND EASILY”… THIS IS ONE OF THE TYPICAL FLAKY REMARKS THAT I HEAR SO OFTEN IN #NEWAGE AND #TANTRA CIRCLES.
I FIND IT DEEPLY DISRESPECTFUL WHEN PEOPLE EXPRESS A WISH TO MEET UP FOR IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS BUT THEN DO NOT CHECK OR RESPOND TO MESSAGES FOR DAYS.
AS A HOUSEHOLDER #TANTRIKA I LIVE A BUSY LIFE WITH MULTIPLE COMPETING DEMANDS ON MY TIME. THIS REQUIRES A DISCIPLINED APPROACH TO MANAGING TIME AND ENERGY, CO-ORDINATING TASKS AND PRIORITISING THOSE INTERACTIONS WHICH ARE MEANINGFUL AND IMPORTANT.
IF SOMETHING IS IMPORTANT TO ME, I WILL MAKE A PLAN, CLEAR TIME IN MY SCHEDULE, AND SHOW UP.YET, KNOWING THAT OTHERS LIKELY ALSO HAVE TO MAKE TRICKY DECISIONS, I BELIEVE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO CULTIVATE RESPECT AND CLARITY, SO I GENERALLY RESPOND TO COMMUNICATIONS PROMPTLY AND LET PEOPLE KNOW IF I AM NOT ABLE TO COMMIT TO AN INTERACTION.
THAT IS WHY I INTERPRET THE #FLIGHTY AND #AVOIDANT TENDENCY AMONG MUCH OF THE SO-CALLED SPIRITUAL COMMUNITY HERE IN #CAPETOWN AS ESSENTIALLY AN EXPRESSION OF #IMMATURITY #DISRESPECT AND #NARCISSISM.
THIS IS A #PATTERN I HAVE TRACKED IN MY LIFE – AN INORDINATE AND TOXIC FASCINATION WITH THE IMMATURE, EVASIVE, OTHERWORLDLY… #ARCHETYPES #JUNG LABELLED THE PUER AETERNUS AND THE PUELLA AETERNA… THE ETERNAL BOY AND GIRL SURROUNDED BY A DECEPTIVE GLAMOUR OF YOUTHFULNESS, #SPONTANEITY AND #FREEDOM THAT STEMS FROM A DEEP UNWILLINGNESS TO COMMIT, SHOW UP WITH MATURITY, HONOUR THE SACRIFICES OTHERS MAKE, AND BRING CHALLENGING TASKS TO FRUITION.
PROJECTS AND INTERACTIONS WITH PETER PAN AND TINKERBELL INEVITABLY EVAPORATE BACK INTO NEVERLAND WITH A PUFF OF #RAINBOW #GLITTER. NOTHING RIPENS IN NEVERLAND.
HAVING BEEN BURNED MANY TIMES, WHEN SUCH PATTERNS BECOME APPARENT, IT IS CLEAR THAT A #RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT JUSTIFY FURTHER INVESTMENT OF TIME OR ATTENTION.THIS IS PARTICULARLY IMPORTANT IN THE CONTEXT OF #INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS, ESPECIALLY IN A #POLYAMOROUS SPACE AND IN THE PURSUIT OF TANTRA, WHICH REQUIRE FOCUS, #DEVOTION, AND THE COURAGE TO BE PRESENT FOR #PLEASURE AS MUCH AS FOR DISCOMFORT.
#FLAKETOWN #TAKEDOWN